March 27, 2023
Episode 17 - Happy Equinox - Time to Practice for Others
The Equinox - or seasonal divide - gives us an opportunity to reflect and look at who we are and how we became the people we are. At this time, it is a great practice to share our blessings and wishes for peace with others - including those who have gone before yet played a role in making us who we are.
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And welcome.
I'm so happy you're here and
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listening today and I'm excited
about today's conversation and
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topic.
We've just passed the Equinox.
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So we're going to look deeply at
how seasonal divides.
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Our spiritual markers gateways
and pauses are timeouts.
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This will help us to uncover
more ways of living that help us
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reveal our authentic selves and
live happier more fulfilling
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lives and doing so it will
hopefully also Empower us to
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help others live happier and
more fulfilling lives as well.
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So we just passed the vernal
equinox in the northern
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hemisphere.
It means the start of spring in
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the southern hemisphere.
Of course.
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It's means the start of autumn
In Japan, The Equinox is called
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Keegan.
Well, if the equinoxes infect
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and Buddhist in Japan, Mark
both, similarly, there's
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something to be learned from the
way the Japanese approach, the
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seasonal divided, especially
spiritually.
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So in Japan, he Gan means
literally other Shore.
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It's a derived from Sanskrit,
historically.
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It is a holiday that not only
marks the beginning of Spring
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and Autumn but it is also a day
or period where ones for bears
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and ancestors are celebrated
cherished, remembered and
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honored.
The activities for doing this
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include not only cleaning family
tombs and grave sites, But also
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amongst Buddhists offering
prayers of spiritual consolation
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and Merit transfer.
These practices are how the
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living extend spiritual ease and
comfort.
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It is also a way to offer one's
Merit to the deceased.
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So that their existence,
wherever they now exist or in
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whatever realm or life, they
exist, is made better.
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The other Shore is the shore of
Enlightenment, according to the
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Buddhists.
So, it is honoring and
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remembering those who have gone
before and praying, they reach,
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Enlightenment and whatever
existence they are in at
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present.
Solve this, of course, presumes
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a certain fundamental belief in
reincarnation, which, of course,
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Buddhist have and belief.
But for our purposes, we don't
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have to worry so much whether or
not we believe in reincarnation.
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We can sit with the knowledge
that we are the products of all
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those who have gone before.
So, he gun is also a time to
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renew, one's own, spiritual
efforts, and practice.
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Renewing one's own aspiration to
achieve enlightenment aspiring
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to achieve enlightenment.
That's a big goal.
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Hard to take in hard to even get
one's mind around.
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So as before in previous,
episodes with big Buddhist
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Concepts, Instead of swinging
for the bleacher.
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So to speak.
Let's focus first on our own
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individual aspirations and
intentions to discover and
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uncover our authentic selves.
In other words getting to know
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and uncover our own unique but a
Nature's.
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So instead of like running for
the goal of Enlightenment, we're
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going to try to better
understand ourselves and uncover
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who we truly are our Buddha
Nature's.
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I think for many people raised
in the judeo Christian tradition
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and cultures strongly influenced
by judeo.
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Christian Traditions, especially
those raised in the west.
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All of this is mostly a foreign
concept.
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What is Merit and how does one
offer it and how do the spirits
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of those gone before receive it
those Spirits even exist.
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And what does this Merit do?
For anybody.
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Same questions can be asked for
Spiritual consolation how do
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prayers and offerings of
spiritual consolation do
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anything to those who've passed
away.
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As, with many things Buddhist.
There are two ways to look at
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and understand these practices
of spiritual consolation and
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Merit transfer.
And the two ways are a literal
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way and a spiritual way.
There's also a third way and
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that is a psychological way to
look at it that while.
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Not necessarily spiritual, it
can have profound effects on
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people's lives specifically on
our lives.
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The lives of the living us
ourselves So let's take Merit,
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let's start there.
I think we've talked about this
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before, but it always helps to
go over it again.
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Merit in the Buddhist sense, is
basically an accounting.
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The sum total of all the
positive actions thoughts and
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words we've ever engaged in In a
Buddhist sense.
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Merit is accumulated.
Not just in this life, but
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carries forward from all
infinite previous lives.
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From beginningless time, but
let's just focus on this life
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for now.
After all it is the one we're
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living.
This accounting of positivity
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just like water from a basin can
be shared.
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So this Merit, this positivity.
If you imagine it as water in a
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basin, or in a cup, or a bowl,
you can share it out, right?
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And sharing it creates more,
giving creates more by doing.
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Good things, you increase Merit,
it's a virtuous circle. giving
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freely unconditionally create
some more of that, which is
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given and that's a wonderful
thing to really understand and
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to embrace as a side note.
This is why we often talk about
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breaking out of zero-sum
mindsets and ways of thinking in
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a resonant, life.
In a zero-sum mind, there is
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Never Enough ever its scarcity.
And so we must horde, and couch
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and covet and keep it away from
others.
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Protect the self, the family,
the clan, the group that shares
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the resources, the understanding
of creating, and sharing, Merit
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belies all this, it's the
opposite.
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If we have a pool of positivity,
literally actions, we've taken
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in our lives or the effects of
those at the positive effects of
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those actions and we can share
that out and that creates more
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of the same just by doing it.
Obviously we have an infinite
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Supply and so we need to
override the natural scarcity
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mindset. and acknowledge and
embrace this idea that by doing
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good, we create more good By
giving Merit giving it away, we
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create more of it.
But what is it that we share
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when we share merits, whether it
is shared with the living, or
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the dead, like our ancestors, or
with those, we know, like,
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family and friends or those, we
don't know.
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Such as victims of disasters.
Everybody's prayed for the
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victims of disasters are hoped
that they are suffering lessons
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that they're able to recover,
right?
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So what we are sharing when we
share our merit, with others
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Living Dead, what we are sharing
is our sincerity Our sincere
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wish hope and prayer that
suffering ends their suffering
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ends.
And that, that Bounty comes And
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that disease and illness are
healed.
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That poverty is ameliorated.
That want becomes plenty.
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Or more close to home that
someone we love in our lives
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finds happiness, where there
hasn't been much happiness, or
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our wish and hope a friend
succeed, where maybe they have
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failed before.
This is sincerity sincerity of
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intention.
Setting our hearts and Minds
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with the wish, the hopes and the
prayers.
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That others will find.
Peace happiness and prosperity.
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That they will have lives of
safety that they will live
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without fear.
Sincerity of intention is the
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first step to sharing Merit.
But if we want to add a
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multiplier, a booster to the
power of sharing Merit, then we
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need to act to take a concrete
action.
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To take sincere actions on our
wishes hopes and prayers.
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Physical concrete measurable
actions, bring prayer into
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reality.
A thought becomes a deed and as
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we've discussed before in
previous episodes.
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These actions don't have to be
grand.
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Sweeping big swing actions.
It's not like we have to give a
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zillion dollars to take care of
some giant problem.
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Actions start with the most
basic simple things.
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Action start with a smile.
A helping hand.
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A kind word or gesture.
A piece of advice or
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encouragement.
The smallest of sincere actions
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to help and support are in
reality, big swings.
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Ultimately ultimately, they are
actually world-changing.
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Because you've brought goodness
into the world where maybe there
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wasn't before earlier.
I mentioned that there was a
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literal spiritual and
psychological way to look at
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sharing Merit.
Spiritually sharing Merit is
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first believing that you have
Merit to share that you have a
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well of goodness that you can
dip into and share out.
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And actually it is more than
believing you have Merit to
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share.
It is having faith that you do
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and faith that it matters that
you share it.
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Faith that your efforts your
contributions.
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You're very actions.
Make a difference.
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This is spiritually sharing
Merit.
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Okay, literal literally sharing
Merit, this is putting it into
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action, physically doing things.
Even if it is just a smile of
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encouragement to someone who
needs that action action action
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concrete action with the sincere
intent to be of help.
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That's literally sharing
marriage action with a sincere
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intent to be of help.
Now the psychological side of
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it, psychologically sharing
mirror is a feedback loop.
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The changes, the way we look at
the world, our lives and our
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places in it.
The more we consciously
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sincerely share Merit
spiritually and literally.
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Do kind things without
expectation of anything.
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The more we do this, the more
our Baseline psychology shifts
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from being self focused and
there we are again sort of in
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the realm of that zero-sum
thinking.
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So our Baseline psychology
shifts from being self-focused
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to being altruistically focused.
Instead of focused in, we're
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focused out, think of a light
that's pointing inside.
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And turning it around and it
shines outward.
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And the more our Baseline
psychology shifts. the deeper
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our sense of spirituality
becomes, and the deeper our
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spirituality, the more
empowered, we feel to act, A
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virtuous circle.
It's like nuclear fusion the way
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the the way Stars Burn the stars
shine and burn with Fusion,
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start the reaction and it shines
brighter and brighter and it
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continues.
That's the virtuous circle.
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Okay.
Now, back to he guns
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specifically the equinoxes.
There's another element to he
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gun and to sharing Merit and
that is gratitude.
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Gratitude can be a happiness
creation superpower when it is a
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focus of Our intention and
attention.
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And we've talked a lot about
gratitude in a Resident Life
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podcast.
We've talked a lot about it
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here, and it is one of those
frames of mind or mindsets that
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can unlock, so much positivity,
creativity and joy.
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Okay, he got at this celebration
of the Equinox, we intentionally
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and consciously, share merit
with our ancestors.
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And if you prefer instead of
ancestors, we can say those who
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have gone before us and those
whose lives led to us being who
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we are here now.
So while the idea of revering
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ancestors might feel a bit alien
to some.
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It is not such a stretch to
think of those who've gone
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before.
Right those who've gone before
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parents, grandparents
great-grandparents but not even
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just relatives genetic or
adopted but also teachers
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mentors.
Kind strangers.
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All of the people in our lives
living and dead have had some
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role in us, becoming who we are
right now and where we are right
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now.
And the lives we lead and have
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led thus far for better or
worse.
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And the idea here with the
resident life is to find the
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better and to lift it up.
And enhance it and to be
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grateful for how it came to be.
So all that passed, all that
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came before Better or Worse.
We want to find and lift up the
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better, enhance it, and then be
grateful for how it came to be,
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and it even means taking the
worse of the better or worse,
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and working some spiritual and
psychological magic with my
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necks.
Intention and sheer will to
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transmute the worse into better
mind.
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X intention is sheer.
Will we are going to transmute
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the worse into better?
So ends up being better and
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best.
So with our efforts intention
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prayer, meditation and action.
Becomes better and better
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instead of Better or Worse,
better and better, and best.
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And let's just put it out there.
Our lives are basically messy.
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Parts of our Lives might be
great.
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Other parts might be awful.
Most of us are somewhere in the
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middle and bounce back and
forth.
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Even But all of these parts,
whatever state of better or
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worse, they may be in, they
comprise the sum total of our
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lives and Who We Are.
And it is up to us to work the
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psychological and spiritual
magic to make them to make our
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lives, a bitingly happy, a
bitingly happier.
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And gratitude for our lives for
everything in our lives, for
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everything that we came from.
Everything that we've made of
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it.
Gratitude for the entire mess
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intentional, gratitude is how we
can work out the ups and downs
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and discover and uncover.
Abiding happiness.
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Like sharing Merit was a
virtuous circle.
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So is intentional gratitude?
I'll be ready because
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intentional gratitude is
challenging, it's hard.
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Sure, it's easy to feel grateful
for the good things.
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The obvious blessings and
kindness has shown us, but to
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feel grateful to cultivate
gratitude for the awful, the -
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all that worst stuff.
This is a whole order of
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something else.
Essentially, it's a fake it
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until you make it endeavor.
This is where we get into the
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realm of the Mind hack.
So, let's approach it from two
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directions.
First will be intentional
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gratitude, The second will be
situational gratitude.
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These are practices meditations
to try and I hope you'll give it
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a try.
It's okay.
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Intentional.
Gratitude first sit quietly
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somewhere.
And slow your breathing.
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Make a space.
Find a time.
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Give yourself five to ten
minutes.
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Just sit somewhere quiet.
Breathe deeply into and out of
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your lower abdomen, push your
breath down into the lower part
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of your body.
And now, as you've calmed down,
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as you've slowed.
Everything think of someone in
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your life.
Think of someone who you don't
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have the Fondest Memories of.
Maybe it was a childhood bully.
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Maybe it is an X.
Maybe this someone was a teacher
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who never gave you a fair Shake.
Maybe a mean or thoughtless
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relative.
Find someone in your memory.
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This is a meditation.
Find a person.
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So find them then try to
remember all the things they did
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to you, that you didn't like or
all the things they did that
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were hurtful.
Or that damaged your
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self-confidence, or your
self-esteem?
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However, this type of meditation
works for you dig into it, be
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concrete, make a list or a
mental movie.
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Get as much detail and feeling
as you can into it.
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And when you've got it clear
when it feels kind of fresh and
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painful, it's clear as you can
get it.
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And, and it's really, you're
really feeling it picture, the
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person, clearly in your mind in
front of you, and then say, in
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in your heart and mind or even
out loud say Yes. then say,
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thank you. then say, I accept,
and I'm grateful.
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And do it again.
Yes.
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Thank you.
I accept and I'm grateful to
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you.
Okay why yes, why are we saying
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yes?
Because this psychologically
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moves our minds to an
affirmative, we put ourselves in
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a negative situation and we move
our minds to an affirmative
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anyone in sales.
Will tell you that when trying
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to make a sale, they will
converse with customers and get
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them to agree to banal things.
To say yes, this predisposes
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them to say, yes, when it comes
time to make a sale, they are
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psychologically in a positive
frame of mind and you want your
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mind in an affirmative State,
then your heart is more open as
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well and you are more accepting
and not in opposition.
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Okay, thank you.
Why are we saying thank you?
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What are we saying?
Thank you for for making us feel
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awful.
No, not that we are again
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intentionally and
psychologically, moving our
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heart and mind into a position,
a posture of openness of
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acceptance.
Taking it one step further, it
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is like the word namaste in
Hindi or namaskar in Sanskrit.
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It is an acknowledgement of the
ultimate equality of everything
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and pays honor to the sacredness
of all.
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Isn't that a wonderful greeting,
namaste?
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Acknowledging, the ultimate
equality of everything and
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paying honor to the sacredness
of all. even more, it's like
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namu in Japanese Buddhism namu
is praised by owing to and
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honoring the sacred What is
sacred life?
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Existence, doing our best.
So, thank you.
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This is acknowledging that are
relatively small situations are
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moments of infinite, existence,
and they are sacred.
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This really difficult, isn't it?
So finally, just we thought it
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was difficult, it's going to get
more.
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So finally, I accept and am
grateful.
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So this is the psychological.
How do you say this is the
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psychological period at the end
of the proverbial sentence?
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It is an incantation that
implies that situations happened
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between us.
And we are the results today.
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We are the result today of those
situations and we will move
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forward and Beyond This is how
we made it today and this is
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where we're going.
We accept it and even even if we
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don't actually feel sincerely
grateful for this, we are using
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sincerity by doing the practice.
So our egos create barriers to
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Wallace often protect us.
Right?
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But if we are sincere in our
practice sincerity permeates,
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the membrane of our ego and
takes over the ego is very
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porous.
Very fragile.
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And by consciously doing things
that are opposite to what, it's
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intending, they seep in and then
they change.
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So it provides the conditions
for authentic gratitude to,
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well, up in our hearts and Minds
by faking it, until we make it
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with practice over time.
Don't stop, keep doing it.
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It's not a flip, the switch kind
of thing, it's an erosion kind
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of thing.
You got to do it over and over
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and over and practice it and
it's going to get better and
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it's going to get easier.
And suddenly one day, boom, like
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a flower gratitudes going to
Blossom in your heart in your
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mind and with gratitude comes
Joy.
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For achieving this moment of
insight and Awakening.
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Okay, next, that was the first
one now situational gratitude.
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So what is this practice?
This is a practice of
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spontaneity of Awakening to
living differently.
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This is a practice in action,
it's using.
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Yes, thank you.
I accept but doing so in our
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daily lives, as we go about
everything we do in a day.
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Bringing this to every situation
meeting encounter.
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Say, someone bumps into you?
Yes.
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Thank you.
I accept not out loud.
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Obviously, everybody would freak
out but in your heart and your
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mind, say something goes not
your way at a meeting or at
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work.
Yes.
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Thank you.
I accept.
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Say you have a quarrel with a
child or a partner or spouse.
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Yes.
Thank you.
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I accept.
The Barista screws up your
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coffee order.
Yes, thank you.
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I accept.
Your spouse pushes your buttons
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one more time.
Yes.
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Thank you.
I accept.
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Get it.
At first, maybe you'll just
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growl but keep trying.
Maybe you'll only get yes for a
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while.
Maybe the thank you and I except
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can't come.
That's all right.
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Yes.
Yes.
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Start with that step by step.
Keep working on.
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Thank you and I accept will be
possible eventually.
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Can't take three steps until you
take the first.
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Can't take three steps till you
take the first in the second
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practice, in both practices
intentional.
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Gratitude, meditation and
situational gratitude action
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must be practiced together.
Like burning coals one coal
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alone, will go out to Cole's,
together, burn and burn.
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We're back to that Fusion
thought again.
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I've been doing this practice
for a long time and I've
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struggled with both, I still
struggle.
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But struggling.
Is the point, isn't it?
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That's the whole point.
If we're not struggling, then
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we're not making progress, not
moving forward.
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So, step by step.
Day by day.
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Situation by situation.
Person by person.
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We work to move forward. in the
side benefit is when you can
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truly in your heart, forgive
those in your past who have hurt
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or wronged you you're able to
then feel compassion for them
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and wish them more happiness in
their lives, where maybe before
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you only had disdain or
contempt, Now, you can sincerely
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wish for happiness for them.
We humans we hurt each other all
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the time intentionally and
unintentionally and if we can
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forgive others and eventually
feel compassion, for others,
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even ones who have hurt us.
Then we are more likely and able
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to forgive ourselves for the
Hertz.
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We ourselves have caused others.
And we can also feel compassion
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for ourselves.
Will delve into this topic in
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another future episode.
It's also a deep way of practice
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that leads to positivity. it's
its own topic for deep
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discussion, but for now, For now
happy Equinox.
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Everybody happy seasonal
divided.
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I hope you've got something to
take away from listening today.
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It's been a bit long and I've
given you a lot of homework.
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And I'm going to do the homework
to.
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So when we put this all into
practice, it will lead to a life
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of joy and happiness beyond what
we can imagine.
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And isn't that a wonderful
thing?
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And welcome.
I'm so happy you're here and
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listening today and I'm excited
about today's conversation and
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topic.
We've just passed the Equinox.
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So we're going to look deeply at
how seasonal divides.
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Our spiritual markers gateways
and pauses are timeouts.
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This will help us to uncover
more ways of living that help us
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reveal our authentic selves and
live happier more fulfilling
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lives and doing so it will
hopefully also Empower us to
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help others live happier and
more fulfilling lives as well.
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So we just passed the vernal
equinox in the northern
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hemisphere.
It means the start of spring in
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the southern hemisphere.
Of course.
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It's means the start of autumn
In Japan, The Equinox is called
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Keegan.
Well, if the equinoxes infect
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and Buddhist in Japan, Mark
both, similarly, there's
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something to be learned from the
way the Japanese approach, the
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seasonal divided, especially
spiritually.
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So in Japan, he Gan means
literally other Shore.
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It's a derived from Sanskrit,
historically.
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It is a holiday that not only
marks the beginning of Spring
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and Autumn but it is also a day
or period where ones for bears
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and ancestors are celebrated
cherished, remembered and
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honored.
The activities for doing this
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include not only cleaning family
tombs and grave sites, But also
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amongst Buddhists offering
prayers of spiritual consolation
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and Merit transfer.
These practices are how the
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living extend spiritual ease and
comfort.
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It is also a way to offer one's
Merit to the deceased.
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So that their existence,
wherever they now exist or in
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whatever realm or life, they
exist, is made better.
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The other Shore is the shore of
Enlightenment, according to the
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Buddhists.
So, it is honoring and
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remembering those who have gone
before and praying, they reach,
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Enlightenment and whatever
existence they are in at
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present.
Solve this, of course, presumes
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a certain fundamental belief in
reincarnation, which, of course,
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Buddhist have and belief.
But for our purposes, we don't
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have to worry so much whether or
not we believe in reincarnation.
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We can sit with the knowledge
that we are the products of all
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those who have gone before.
So, he gun is also a time to
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renew, one's own, spiritual
efforts, and practice.
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Renewing one's own aspiration to
achieve enlightenment aspiring
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to achieve enlightenment.
That's a big goal.
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Hard to take in hard to even get
one's mind around.
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So as before in previous,
episodes with big Buddhist
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Concepts, Instead of swinging
for the bleacher.
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So to speak.
Let's focus first on our own
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individual aspirations and
intentions to discover and
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uncover our authentic selves.
In other words getting to know
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and uncover our own unique but a
Nature's.
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So instead of like running for
the goal of Enlightenment, we're
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going to try to better
understand ourselves and uncover
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who we truly are our Buddha
Nature's.
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I think for many people raised
in the judeo Christian tradition
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and cultures strongly influenced
by judeo.
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Christian Traditions, especially
those raised in the west.
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All of this is mostly a foreign
concept.
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What is Merit and how does one
offer it and how do the spirits
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of those gone before receive it
those Spirits even exist.
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And what does this Merit do?
For anybody.
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Same questions can be asked for
Spiritual consolation how do
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prayers and offerings of
spiritual consolation do
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anything to those who've passed
away.
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As, with many things Buddhist.
There are two ways to look at
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and understand these practices
of spiritual consolation and
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Merit transfer.
And the two ways are a literal
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way and a spiritual way.
There's also a third way and
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that is a psychological way to
look at it that while.
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Not necessarily spiritual, it
can have profound effects on
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people's lives specifically on
our lives.
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The lives of the living us
ourselves So let's take Merit,
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let's start there.
I think we've talked about this
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before, but it always helps to
go over it again.
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Merit in the Buddhist sense, is
basically an accounting.
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The sum total of all the
positive actions thoughts and
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words we've ever engaged in In a
Buddhist sense.
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Merit is accumulated.
Not just in this life, but
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carries forward from all
infinite previous lives.
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From beginningless time, but
let's just focus on this life
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for now.
After all it is the one we're
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living.
This accounting of positivity
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just like water from a basin can
be shared.
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So this Merit, this positivity.
If you imagine it as water in a
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basin, or in a cup, or a bowl,
you can share it out, right?
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And sharing it creates more,
giving creates more by doing.
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Good things, you increase Merit,
it's a virtuous circle. giving
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freely unconditionally create
some more of that, which is
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given and that's a wonderful
thing to really understand and
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to embrace as a side note.
This is why we often talk about
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breaking out of zero-sum
mindsets and ways of thinking in
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a resonant, life.
In a zero-sum mind, there is
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Never Enough ever its scarcity.
And so we must horde, and couch
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and covet and keep it away from
others.
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Protect the self, the family,
the clan, the group that shares
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the resources, the understanding
of creating, and sharing, Merit
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belies all this, it's the
opposite.
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If we have a pool of positivity,
literally actions, we've taken
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in our lives or the effects of
those at the positive effects of
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those actions and we can share
that out and that creates more
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of the same just by doing it.
Obviously we have an infinite
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Supply and so we need to
override the natural scarcity
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mindset. and acknowledge and
embrace this idea that by doing
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good, we create more good By
giving Merit giving it away, we
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create more of it.
But what is it that we share
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when we share merits, whether it
is shared with the living, or
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the dead, like our ancestors, or
with those, we know, like,
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family and friends or those, we
don't know.
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Such as victims of disasters.
Everybody's prayed for the
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victims of disasters are hoped
that they are suffering lessons
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that they're able to recover,
right?
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So what we are sharing when we
share our merit, with others
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Living Dead, what we are sharing
is our sincerity Our sincere
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wish hope and prayer that
suffering ends their suffering
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ends.
And that, that Bounty comes And
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that disease and illness are
healed.
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That poverty is ameliorated.
That want becomes plenty.
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Or more close to home that
someone we love in our lives
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finds happiness, where there
hasn't been much happiness, or
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our wish and hope a friend
succeed, where maybe they have
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failed before.
This is sincerity sincerity of
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intention.
Setting our hearts and Minds
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with the wish, the hopes and the
prayers.
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That others will find.
Peace happiness and prosperity.
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That they will have lives of
safety that they will live
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without fear.
Sincerity of intention is the
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first step to sharing Merit.
But if we want to add a
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multiplier, a booster to the
power of sharing Merit, then we
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need to act to take a concrete
action.
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To take sincere actions on our
wishes hopes and prayers.
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Physical concrete measurable
actions, bring prayer into
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reality.
A thought becomes a deed and as
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we've discussed before in
previous episodes.
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These actions don't have to be
grand.
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Sweeping big swing actions.
It's not like we have to give a
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zillion dollars to take care of
some giant problem.
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Actions start with the most
basic simple things.
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Action start with a smile.
A helping hand.
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A kind word or gesture.
A piece of advice or
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encouragement.
The smallest of sincere actions
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to help and support are in
reality, big swings.
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Ultimately ultimately, they are
actually world-changing.
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Because you've brought goodness
into the world where maybe there
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wasn't before earlier.
I mentioned that there was a
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literal spiritual and
psychological way to look at
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sharing Merit.
Spiritually sharing Merit is
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first believing that you have
Merit to share that you have a
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well of goodness that you can
dip into and share out.
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And actually it is more than
believing you have Merit to
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share.
It is having faith that you do
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and faith that it matters that
you share it.
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Faith that your efforts your
contributions.
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You're very actions.
Make a difference.
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This is spiritually sharing
Merit.
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Okay, literal literally sharing
Merit, this is putting it into
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action, physically doing things.
Even if it is just a smile of
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encouragement to someone who
needs that action action action
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concrete action with the sincere
intent to be of help.
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That's literally sharing
marriage action with a sincere
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intent to be of help.
Now the psychological side of
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it, psychologically sharing
mirror is a feedback loop.
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The changes, the way we look at
the world, our lives and our
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places in it.
The more we consciously
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sincerely share Merit
spiritually and literally.
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Do kind things without
expectation of anything.
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The more we do this, the more
our Baseline psychology shifts
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from being self focused and
there we are again sort of in
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the realm of that zero-sum
thinking.
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So our Baseline psychology
shifts from being self-focused
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to being altruistically focused.
Instead of focused in, we're
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focused out, think of a light
that's pointing inside.
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And turning it around and it
shines outward.
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And the more our Baseline
psychology shifts. the deeper
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our sense of spirituality
becomes, and the deeper our
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spirituality, the more
empowered, we feel to act, A
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virtuous circle.
It's like nuclear fusion the way
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the the way Stars Burn the stars
shine and burn with Fusion,
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start the reaction and it shines
brighter and brighter and it
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continues.
That's the virtuous circle.
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Okay.
Now, back to he guns
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specifically the equinoxes.
There's another element to he
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gun and to sharing Merit and
that is gratitude.
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Gratitude can be a happiness
creation superpower when it is a
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focus of Our intention and
attention.
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And we've talked a lot about
gratitude in a Resident Life
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podcast.
We've talked a lot about it
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here, and it is one of those
frames of mind or mindsets that
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can unlock, so much positivity,
creativity and joy.
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Okay, he got at this celebration
of the Equinox, we intentionally
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and consciously, share merit
with our ancestors.
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And if you prefer instead of
ancestors, we can say those who
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have gone before us and those
whose lives led to us being who
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we are here now.
So while the idea of revering
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ancestors might feel a bit alien
to some.
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It is not such a stretch to
think of those who've gone
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before.
Right those who've gone before
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parents, grandparents
great-grandparents but not even
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just relatives genetic or
adopted but also teachers
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mentors.
Kind strangers.
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All of the people in our lives
living and dead have had some
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role in us, becoming who we are
right now and where we are right
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now.
And the lives we lead and have
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led thus far for better or
worse.
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And the idea here with the
resident life is to find the
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better and to lift it up.
And enhance it and to be
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grateful for how it came to be.
So all that passed, all that
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came before Better or Worse.
We want to find and lift up the
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better, enhance it, and then be
grateful for how it came to be,
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and it even means taking the
worse of the better or worse,
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and working some spiritual and
psychological magic with my
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necks.
Intention and sheer will to
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transmute the worse into better
mind.
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X intention is sheer.
Will we are going to transmute
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the worse into better?
So ends up being better and
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best.
So with our efforts intention
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prayer, meditation and action.
Becomes better and better
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instead of Better or Worse,
better and better, and best.
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And let's just put it out there.
Our lives are basically messy.
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Parts of our Lives might be
great.
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Other parts might be awful.
Most of us are somewhere in the
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middle and bounce back and
forth.
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Even But all of these parts,
whatever state of better or
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worse, they may be in, they
comprise the sum total of our
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lives and Who We Are.
And it is up to us to work the
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psychological and spiritual
magic to make them to make our
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lives, a bitingly happy, a
bitingly happier.
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And gratitude for our lives for
everything in our lives, for
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everything that we came from.
Everything that we've made of
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it.
Gratitude for the entire mess
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intentional, gratitude is how we
can work out the ups and downs
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and discover and uncover.
Abiding happiness.
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Like sharing Merit was a
virtuous circle.
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So is intentional gratitude?
I'll be ready because
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intentional gratitude is
challenging, it's hard.
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Sure, it's easy to feel grateful
for the good things.
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The obvious blessings and
kindness has shown us, but to
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feel grateful to cultivate
gratitude for the awful, the -
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all that worst stuff.
This is a whole order of
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something else.
Essentially, it's a fake it
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until you make it endeavor.
This is where we get into the
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realm of the Mind hack.
So, let's approach it from two
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directions.
First will be intentional
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gratitude, The second will be
situational gratitude.
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These are practices meditations
to try and I hope you'll give it
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a try.
It's okay.
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Intentional.
Gratitude first sit quietly
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somewhere.
And slow your breathing.
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Make a space.
Find a time.
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Give yourself five to ten
minutes.
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Just sit somewhere quiet.
Breathe deeply into and out of
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your lower abdomen, push your
breath down into the lower part
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of your body.
And now, as you've calmed down,
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as you've slowed.
Everything think of someone in
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your life.
Think of someone who you don't
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have the Fondest Memories of.
Maybe it was a childhood bully.
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Maybe it is an X.
Maybe this someone was a teacher
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who never gave you a fair Shake.
Maybe a mean or thoughtless
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relative.
Find someone in your memory.
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This is a meditation.
Find a person.
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So find them then try to
remember all the things they did
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to you, that you didn't like or
all the things they did that
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were hurtful.
Or that damaged your
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self-confidence, or your
self-esteem?
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However, this type of meditation
works for you dig into it, be
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concrete, make a list or a
mental movie.
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Get as much detail and feeling
as you can into it.
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And when you've got it clear
when it feels kind of fresh and
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painful, it's clear as you can
get it.
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And, and it's really, you're
really feeling it picture, the
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person, clearly in your mind in
front of you, and then say, in
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in your heart and mind or even
out loud say Yes. then say,
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thank you. then say, I accept,
and I'm grateful.
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And do it again.
Yes.
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Thank you.
I accept and I'm grateful to
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you.
Okay why yes, why are we saying
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yes?
Because this psychologically
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moves our minds to an
affirmative, we put ourselves in
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a negative situation and we move
our minds to an affirmative
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anyone in sales.
Will tell you that when trying
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to make a sale, they will
converse with customers and get
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them to agree to banal things.
To say yes, this predisposes
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them to say, yes, when it comes
time to make a sale, they are
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psychologically in a positive
frame of mind and you want your
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mind in an affirmative State,
then your heart is more open as
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well and you are more accepting
and not in opposition.
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Okay, thank you.
Why are we saying thank you?
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What are we saying?
Thank you for for making us feel
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awful.
No, not that we are again
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intentionally and
psychologically, moving our
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heart and mind into a position,
a posture of openness of
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acceptance.
Taking it one step further, it
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is like the word namaste in
Hindi or namaskar in Sanskrit.
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It is an acknowledgement of the
ultimate equality of everything
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and pays honor to the sacredness
of all.
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Isn't that a wonderful greeting,
namaste?
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Acknowledging, the ultimate
equality of everything and
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paying honor to the sacredness
of all. even more, it's like
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namu in Japanese Buddhism namu
is praised by owing to and
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honoring the sacred What is
sacred life?
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Existence, doing our best.
So, thank you.
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This is acknowledging that are
relatively small situations are
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moments of infinite, existence,
and they are sacred.
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This really difficult, isn't it?
So finally, just we thought it
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was difficult, it's going to get
more.
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So finally, I accept and am
grateful.
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So this is the psychological.
How do you say this is the
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psychological period at the end
of the proverbial sentence?
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It is an incantation that
implies that situations happened
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between us.
And we are the results today.
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We are the result today of those
situations and we will move
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forward and Beyond This is how
we made it today and this is
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where we're going.
We accept it and even even if we
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don't actually feel sincerely
grateful for this, we are using
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sincerity by doing the practice.
So our egos create barriers to
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Wallace often protect us.
Right?
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But if we are sincere in our
practice sincerity permeates,
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the membrane of our ego and
takes over the ego is very
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porous.
Very fragile.
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And by consciously doing things
that are opposite to what, it's
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intending, they seep in and then
they change.
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So it provides the conditions
for authentic gratitude to,
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well, up in our hearts and Minds
by faking it, until we make it
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with practice over time.
Don't stop, keep doing it.
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It's not a flip, the switch kind
of thing, it's an erosion kind
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of thing.
You got to do it over and over
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and over and practice it and
it's going to get better and
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it's going to get easier.
And suddenly one day, boom, like
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a flower gratitudes going to
Blossom in your heart in your
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mind and with gratitude comes
Joy.
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For achieving this moment of
insight and Awakening.
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Okay, next, that was the first
one now situational gratitude.
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So what is this practice?
This is a practice of
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spontaneity of Awakening to
living differently.
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This is a practice in action,
it's using.
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Yes, thank you.
I accept but doing so in our
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daily lives, as we go about
everything we do in a day.
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Bringing this to every situation
meeting encounter.
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Say, someone bumps into you?
Yes.
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Thank you.
I accept not out loud.
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Obviously, everybody would freak
out but in your heart and your
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mind, say something goes not
your way at a meeting or at
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work.
Yes.
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Thank you.
I accept.
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Say you have a quarrel with a
child or a partner or spouse.
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Yes.
Thank you.
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I accept.
The Barista screws up your
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coffee order.
Yes, thank you.
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I accept.
Your spouse pushes your buttons
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one more time.
Yes.
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Thank you.
I accept.
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Get it.
At first, maybe you'll just
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growl but keep trying.
Maybe you'll only get yes for a
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while.
Maybe the thank you and I except
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can't come.
That's all right.
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Yes.
Yes.
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Start with that step by step.
Keep working on.
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Thank you and I accept will be
possible eventually.
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Can't take three steps until you
take the first.
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Can't take three steps till you
take the first in the second
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practice, in both practices
intentional.
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Gratitude, meditation and
situational gratitude action
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must be practiced together.
Like burning coals one coal
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alone, will go out to Cole's,
together, burn and burn.
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We're back to that Fusion
thought again.
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I've been doing this practice
for a long time and I've
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struggled with both, I still
struggle.
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But struggling.
Is the point, isn't it?
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That's the whole point.
If we're not struggling, then
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we're not making progress, not
moving forward.
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So, step by step.
Day by day.
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Situation by situation.
Person by person.
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We work to move forward. in the
side benefit is when you can
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truly in your heart, forgive
those in your past who have hurt
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or wronged you you're able to
then feel compassion for them
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and wish them more happiness in
their lives, where maybe before
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you only had disdain or
contempt, Now, you can sincerely
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wish for happiness for them.
We humans we hurt each other all
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the time intentionally and
unintentionally and if we can
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forgive others and eventually
feel compassion, for others,
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even ones who have hurt us.
Then we are more likely and able
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to forgive ourselves for the
Hertz.
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We ourselves have caused others.
And we can also feel compassion
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for ourselves.
Will delve into this topic in
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another future episode.
It's also a deep way of practice
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that leads to positivity. it's
its own topic for deep
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discussion, but for now, For now
happy Equinox.
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Everybody happy seasonal
divided.
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I hope you've got something to
take away from listening today.
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It's been a bit long and I've
given you a lot of homework.
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And I'm going to do the homework
to.
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So when we put this all into
practice, it will lead to a life
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of joy and happiness beyond what
we can imagine.
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And isn't that a wonderful
thing?
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